How will you be remembered after you die? Have you ever thought about that? One of the things that always amazes me about the way we here at West Hollywood Church remember those who have died is that almost everyone leaves a Memorial Service saying, “I didn’t know that about her or him!” And they’re impressed!
And that’s not just from “general friends.” A few months ago we remembered and celebrated the life of David Muller. David’s mom, who knew him for 56 years, has said to me every time we talk, “I didn’t know [this or that] about David. His Memorial service was so beautiful to me.” And then she pauses and asks, “Is it okay to say that about a Memorial Service?” Of course it is. What made that service so beautiful for her was the honest sharing about David’s life and the way he touched so many people. Some pastors include a “eulogy” that gives “vital” information about the person. That usually includes where they were born, where they went to school. Awards, accomplishments, professional achievements, etc., etc. Years ago I learned that that kind of stuff is not what people remember or even care about. What we care about is how the person who has died touched our lives. We care about their humanness and the way they related to us.
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